30 Dates in 30 Nights – {Date 13} The Lobbyist Part 2

The second date can be so nerve-racking! It’s a second chance to make an impression but also a second chance to screw up the great impression you made the first time. Also, no one ever knows if this is an appropriate time to lean in for a kiss or if it’s too soon. I asked my coaches for their thoughts and they all had very different answers. Some said it was too soon for a kiss, others said it was fine and one of them said: “If he didn’t kiss you on the first date and is going out with you again, he’s a good guy”… Sooo the jury is still out on when it’s best to turn up the heat!

My opinion? You kind of know when the moment is right. That sounds cheesy but sometimes it takes time to assess the situation. Other times, the elements line up sooner. But one thing is for certain, nobody wants to make the first move and get rejected.

So what do you think? Is it ok to turn up the flirtation at this stage? And what are some mistakes that you have seen people make in the first couple of dates?

Share your thoughts in the comments section below, I’m curious to get your perspectives!

The Date…

We decide on a Sunday night movie for a relaxing second date. I normally avoid the movie theater on the first few meetings with someone because you can’t talk to the person and therefore can’t get to know them further. But in this case I think we will make the best of it anyway.

I arrive at the theater and head to the box office, since he told me on the first date that I could “pay next time”. But he’s already there with tickets on hand! “You get next time,” he tells me laughing.

He asks me one last time if I’m sure this movie is a good idea. “I’ve been told this is a bad film to watch when you’re first getting to know someone,” he says hesitantly. “Don’t worry,” I tell him, “I know how it ends.” He has a point though, we’re about to watch Gone Girl, from the writer who sparked the very title of this blog. I don’t want to spoil the film for anyone but it’s certainly NOT a romantic comedy. However, I figure that if nothing else, this experience might spark some interesting conversation afterward.

We both leave the movie a bit shaken and definitely not in any sort of romantic mood. I wonder if he’s going to ask me out again since I pretty much killed any chance of a spark tonight. As he walks me to my car he asks me if we can go out again. “Good, you don’t scare easy!” I reply with a smile.


  One thought on “30 Dates in 30 Nights – {Date 13} The Lobbyist Part 2

  1. October 22, 2014 at 5:12 am

    I’m enjoying reading through the myriad of dates you’ve had so far! As far as flirtiness on a second date, I think it’s okay to turn it up. You’ve already decided you like the person enough to see them again, so why not show it.
    And the majority of my first dates lately have been RIFE with mistakes and awkward moments, i.e. not reading my body language and being very touchy-feely, going in for a kiss and I have to turn away, and I had a guy randomly ask me to get a hotel right in the middle of our conversation about investing! All of your dates have sounded pretty enjoyable compared to what I’m used to, even if they didn’t end in a love connection.


    • October 22, 2014 at 1:13 pm

      I’m glad you’re enjoying the posts! I wish I could tell you I can’t believe that guy asked you to get a hotel room in the middle of your date, but I believe it… It’s a strange world out there! Stay safe, but always have fun and NEVER lose track of what you really want in life. ~ M


  2. November 1, 2014 at 8:13 am

    It’s totally okay to up the flirting on the second date! If there’s good chemistry, I say go for the kiss on the first!


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